Polyamory – Loving More Than One, Openly and Honestly

Polyamory means having more than one romantic relationship at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Its focus is honesty and emotional connection, not simply sex, and that is what separates it from cheating.

The word combines the Greek poly (“many”) and the Latin amor (“love”). It entered the Oxford English Dictionary in 2006 and has since moved from a niche idea to a familiar part of conversations about modern relationships. We hear it more often too, usually from clients who mention, quite casually, that their partner knows about the date.

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01What polyamory means in practice

For some people it is a practice, for others it feels closer to an orientation: they simply experience love as something that is not limited to one person. Such a relationship can be sexual, but it does not have to be. The emphasis lies on real relationships, with care and commitment.

It belongs to the wider family of consensual non-monogamy, alongside open relationships and swinging. What these share is consent. What sets this one apart is that it usually involves love, not only physical encounters.

02Triads, polyfidelity and other forms

There is no single model. Every arrangement is negotiated by the people living it, and it may change over the years. A few forms come up again and again:

• Triads and quads: three or four people in one shared relationship, sometimes two couples together.
• Polyfidelity: a closed group whose members agree not to seek new partners.
• Hierarchical: a primary partnership alongside one or more secondary relationships, which may be less frequent without being less valued.
• Non-hierarchical: several relationships without ranking, each defined on its own terms.
• Asymmetric arrangements: one partner has other relationships while the other is perfectly content with one.

Your partner’s other partner is called a metamour. Ideally metamours treat each other with courtesy, and many become friends rather than rivals.

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03Polyamory vs open relationship, polygamy and cheating

These terms get mixed up constantly. Polygamy refers to marriage with several spouses and is usually tied to specific cultural or religious rules; this way of loving is not defined by marriage or by gender roles. An open relationship typically keeps one emotional partnership and allows physical encounters outside it. Cheating is built on secrecy. Here it is the opposite: everyone knows, and everyone agrees.

It is also not a sexual orientation in the usual sense. People of any orientation can be polyamorous, and group intimacy is not a requirement at all.

04Why people choose it, and what makes it hard

People who live this way describe a few recurring benefits. A new connection does not have to end an existing one. No single person has to meet every emotional, intellectual and physical need. Friendships and relationships often grow into a wider, supportive circle. A frequent comparison: loving two people does not mean loving each less, just as a parent’s love is not halved by a second child.

It is not easy, though. Jealousy does not disappear by decision; it has to be talked about. Time is finite, and several relationships take planning. Clear agreements about boundaries, sexual health and honesty are essential, and they need revisiting as feelings change.

Helpful habits include regular check-ins with each partner, honest conversations before small needs turn into resentment, and shared calendars. Many people also speak of compersion: the warm feeling of joy when a partner is happy with someone else, often described as the opposite of jealousy.

05Opening the conversation with a partner

Most people do not wake up one day and redesign their relationship. It usually starts with a hesitant conversation. Pick a calm moment, not the middle of an argument, and talk about feelings before rules. Ask what your partner is curious about and what worries them. Agree to go slowly, and to stop if either of you feels uneasy. Some couples read about it together first, or speak with a counsellor who knows consensual non-monogamy well. There is no deadline, and no is a perfectly valid answer.

06Open couples and a high class escort

A fair number of our clients live in open or polyamorous relationships. Some book alone with their partner’s full knowledge; others want to share the experience. A couple’s date can be a relaxed, entirely consensual adventure, and our guide to the escort for couples explains how it usually works. What we notice is that couples who have already talked through their own boundaries at home arrive calmer, and the evening flows much better for everyone.

As always, every lady decides for herself which preferences she shares, and wishes are discussed in advance through our escort service. Dates take place in four or five star hotels or a comparable private residence, in Paris as much as in Barcelona or London. You can browse our high class escorts and read each escort model’s profile, see the rates, and send a request via the booking page. Your date is confirmed once the security deposit of at least 40% has been received; before that, the lady’s time is not blocked.

07Is polyamory right for you?

Only you and your partners can answer that. It asks for a lot of self-knowledge and very honest conversation, and plenty of people find that monogamy suits them better. Both are valid. Lived with care and respect, it is one of many ways to love, and the communication skills it demands tend to strengthen every relationship, including a single evening with a high class escort. Discover more terms in our erotic dictionary or browse the magazine.